Aloha

In a couple of days, I’m going to deactivate my social media accounts (again).

Q. Why?

A. I feel fairly guilty about the way in which I use social media.

I wish I could say I sign in to social media to keep in touch with friends and acquaintances, but that’s not really true. I mean, I’d love to know about the truly significant stuff, but the signal to noise ratio is so low that … well, I just don’t care enough to sort through it all. If something important happened in your life and you could have used my sympathy or support and I didn’t provide it, I’m sorry. I probably missed it completely.

Mostly, when you’ve seen me using social media, it’s been me engaging in attention-seeking behavior. And I’m embarrassed as hell to have to acknowledge that. I acknowledge that even the act of posting this is attention-seeking behavior. Why not just vanish, and say nothing? Well, I’m embarrassed as well about the prospect of just having done with it and ghosting the entire planet. I figured I should at least say why my accounts are going to go zot.

I care about y’all, but at the end of the day, the negative consequences of taking part in things like Twitter and Facebook and Instagram are seriously outweighing the positive. I’ll probably keep on posting to my blog at furrs.org — it’s kind of a way I keep track of my own thoughts and feelings… but it’s entirely up to you if you pay attention.

I acknowledge as well that this might be temporary, that I might be back in a month or two. For everyone’s sake, I hope not.

Thanks for everything. Be well.

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2 Responses to Aloha

  1. I hope you do come back, and I’ll try and remember to stop by your site now and then too. Even if I don’t always have the spoons to respond it’s nice to read your posts.

    Quite a lot of the Internet – most of it, possibly – is people reaching out into the void because we’re lonely and want to connect with others. That’s not a terrible thing, it’s a human thing. You have interesting things to say and a great sense of humor, and there’s definitely online communities where you’d be welcome. *fliffs* Trip says hi and his cats say miao.

  2. jackd says:

    Hey, if you don’t think social media are healthy for you, walk away, no worries. But from my POV, what you post online is neutral at worst and often pretty entertaining. Yeah, you do some confessional stuff that inclines sometimes toward self-flagellation, but I figure you need to get that out from time to time. Again, do what feels healthy to you. My RSS feed keeps me updated on what shows up here, so I’ll keep up.

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